Whether gaslighting is conscious or not, it produces the same result: it renders some women emotionally mute.



These women aren’t able to clearly express to their spouses that what is said or done to them is hurtful. They can’t tell their boss that his behavior is disrespectful and prevents them from doing their best work. They can’t tell their parents that, when they are being critical, they are doing more harm than good.



When these women receive any sort of push back to their reactions, they often brush it off by saying, “Forget it, it’s okay.”



That “forget it” isn’t just about dismissing a thought, it is about self-dismissal. It’s heartbreaking.



No wonder some women are unconsciously passive aggressive when expressing anger, sadness, or frustration. For years, they have been subjected to so much gaslighting that they can no longer express themselves in a way that feels authentic to them.



They say, “I’m sorry” before giving their opinion. In an email or text message, they place a smiley face next to a serious question or concern, thereby reducing the impact of having to express their true feelings.



You know how it looks: “You’re late :)”

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oh gods this

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Oh my god, this. A lot of times, I’m really bothered by something and I can’t adequately express why. And then I do and I have some dude giving me his dissertation on why sexism isn’t a thing anymore because men have a power over men. Because we fucking smile. Ugh. Ugh. Ughhhh.

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